Life's Little Lessons No. 1: Actions Speak Louder Than Words

Dearest Devotees,

Now, I realise that I am but a child in the big courtyard of life, but I strongly believe that anyone, absolutely anyone, can teach you something new, or reveal something to you in a totally different light. I, for one continue to learn new things every day and sometimes in extremely odd and unexpected places too. And who better to share these little insights with than you, my devotees? So it is with this in mind that I introduce my Life's little lessons piece, in the hope that you too may join me in this path of discovery and learn a little more along the way.

After going through another situation in which I (incorrectly) analysed a guy's words without taking his actions into serious account, and being hurt by the outcome, I feel that it is about time that I incorporated the saying that 'actions speak louder than words', into my life. I mean, people can (and often do) say things without meaning them, and we, the receivers of these untruths choose to believe them simply because we want to, even when the person's actions do not reflect what they have told you. In fact, some of us, men and women alike, try to make it seem that these contradictory actions are in fact the exact sort of behaviours one should expect in these situations. This was brought home to me in a big way when a day after the aforementioned guy situation, I rewatched the movie He's just not that into you with a friend of mine. I felt like Gigi and was completely enlightened when Alex gave this piece of world shifting advice : If a guy acts like he doesn't give a shit about you, he sincerely doesn't give a shit.

The fact that Alex was very much a cynic when he told her this (who later became a romantic when he fell in love with Gigi) does not take away from the truth in this statement. Most people in this world are not good actors and can not go for long periods of time pretending they feel a certain way when they don't. If an acquaintance of yours, claims to be your friend and tends to not mysteriously unavailable whenever you need them, don't try to make excuses for the person. If a boyfriend or girlfriend proclaims their undying love for you but frequently tears you down, or has 'wandering eyes', do not think that it is simply a phase they are passing through. If you really care about the person confront them head on, otherwise you would do well to distance yourself them. Harsh as it may seem sometimes, we would all be better off in in long run if we could accept that words only mean something when they are tied to actions. Look at it this way, if you truly love someone would you only say so, or would you try to show your love for them more each day?

(Picture from trbpix )

Love you all and Stay inspired,

P.S So tell me what you think. What are your experiences with this lesson? Is it something you have tried to incorporate into your life? If so, how do you remember it when you need to ?

Feel free to let me know in the comments below.